There are many couples whose identities are outside of the heteronormative spectrum. They are always the minority and have to constantly fight for their place in society.
They normally use different pronouns and chances are that people will get them wrong, which can be frustrating for them. If your partner exists outside of this box, there are things you can do to make life easier when planning your wedding.
What are pronouns?
Some non-binary/genderqueer people prefer to use gender-neutral pronouns. Usage of the singular ‘they’, ‘their’, and ‘them’ is the most common.
These are words that refer to an individual in place of their name. They describe different gender identities other than just male or female.
Don’t give in to traditional gender roles
The idea that women can only have female friends and men can only have male friends should not exist in your plan for the wedding.
Instead of traditions like the “Best Man Speech,” use gender-free labels like “Friends and Family Speeches.”
Everyone should have the same tasks unless it’s beyond their physical strength, do not give men certain tasks because of their gender and the belief that they are stronger.
Specify in your wedding registry
Monitory donations are a great alternative to avoid receiving gender-specific gifts. You can even ask for donations to your favourite charity, preferably one fighting for LGBTQIA+ rights to help give back on your big day.
Include correct pronouns on your invitation card and wedding day
Your guest list might include people they haven’t met before. To help initiate that conversation, use clear preferred pronouns. Use wedding planning tools as a way to introduce your guests to your partner’s pronouns, and ask for your guests’ pronouns when they RSVP.
If a person uses the incorrect pronouns when referring to your partner, address it respectfully.
Hire LGBTQIA + accomodating vendors
Not only are you supporting the larger LGBTQIA+ community, but it will also make things easy to work with people that understand you. Your partner will be more relaxed and that will result in them feeling included and validated.
The work will be less because most of their tools will not need to be altered or change to suit your needs, as they are already set up like that.
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